EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE

 ( GUIDANCE CORNER )

Dari semalam lagi sebelum tidur, pesan pada Hafidz dan Tajrid supaya set untuk homeschooling yang berjaya, homeschooling yang produktif dan homeschooling yang menyeronokkan. Amin.....!

Pagi ni...selepas habis baca zikir harian, kedua-duanya pergi mandi dan ready for breakfast. Memang menjimatkan masa dan effective bila dah siapkan bahan-bahan yang hendak dimasak for breakfast dari malam lagi. Jadi dalam masa yang singkat sahaja, tumis-tumis, kacau-kacau, rasa dan hidang for my precious sons.

Hafidz minta baca buku kata banyak makna. Buku itu simple dan nipis sahaja tapi sangat bagus untuk meluaskan pandangan dan perbendaharaan kata. Apa yang saya suka dengan Hafidz ialah sifatnya yang banyak bertanya. Sering pertanyaan itu akan meleret-leret . Dari pelajaran bahasa, lompat ke pelajaran sains dan lompat lagi kepelajaran geography. Saya akan layan pertanyaannya dan memang seronok sesi perbincangan ini. Antara banyak perkataan yang kami belajar, akhirnya sampai pada perkataan "mangsa". Perkataan "mangsa" yang pertama membawa pengertian mangsa kemalangan jalan raya. Perkataan "mangsa" kedua adalah membawa pengertian mangsa yang jadi makanan binatang. Gambar dalam buku itu menunjukkan seekor biawak membaham seekor ayam. Dia tanya apa beza rupa biawak dan rupa biawak komodo. Guna goggle map search pulau komodo, Indonesia. Bila dah puas kaji pasal biawak komodo, lompat kisah dinosaur pula sebab dia syak yang biawak komodo adalah species dinasaur yang masih hidup. Bacalah pula bab dinasaur dan zaman Jurassic. Buka youtube dan akhirnya search pasal komet kerana kometlah yang menyebabkan pupusnya species dinasaur.

Saya dapati cara pembelajaran begini sangat bagus untuk meluaskan pandangan dan pengetahuan anak-anak. Di samping itu ianya sangat menyeronokkan. Memupuk "endless learning" dan perkaitan dalam ilmu bahasa, sains dan geography.

Masih lagi saya ingat ketika Hafidz masih belajar di sekolah kerajaan. Seringkali saya terpaksa menyekat pertanyaannya kerana banyak kerja sekolah yang mesti disiapkan. Seringkali itu jugalah dia akan tarik muka masam kerana tidak puas hati. Saya mula perasan sesuatu yang tidak kena dengan pembelajaran sedemikian, yang sangat mementingkan grade dan tidak menitik beratkan pengetahuan yang berterusan. Apa tidaknya, seringkali semasa di bangku sekolah dan juga di universiti, belajar apa yang agak-agak masuk periksa. Hafal bagai berbuih mulut dan semuanya mesti dicramp dalam otak dan pastikan tak lupa sehingga jawab soalan peperiksaan. Esok nak cramp pelajaran lain pula. Habis periksa, simpan buku-buku buat hiasan dan lupa segala yang dicramp dalam otak. Satu pembaziran dan tidak menjana kearah insan yang berilmu.

Tepat pukul 12:00 tengahari, sessi pembelajaran berakhir setelah habis 3 mata pelajaran diajar. Kadang-kadang, 2 mata pelajaran sahaja dan ada juga hari lembab bila anak-anak tak ada mood. Tapi hari ini, saya boleh senyum lebar dan puas kerana kedua-duanya behaved well.

Memang nampak beza tindakan mereka when they set before sleep. Apalagi bila buat "Emotional Freedom Technique". Tapi Hafidz dan Tajrid memang malas nak buat. Mereka set dalam fikiran aje... Kaedah ini sangat bagus dan boleh nampak kesannya dalam masa yang singkat. Apa-apa pun, semuanya adalah dengan kuasa Allah. " EFT " hanyalah satu kaedah dan kita digalakkan berusaha dengan apa cara yang tidak merosakkan akidah. Niat penting dan mulakan dengan nama Allah. Kita boleh tukar yang mana patut dan kesannya memang lebih baik.

Basic Steps to Your Emotional Freedom

What is the Emotional Freedom Technique?

The Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, is the psychological acupressure technique I routinely use in my practice and most highly recommend to optimize your emotional health. Although it is still often overlooked, emotional health is absolutely essential to your physical health and healing - no matter how devoted you are to the proper diet and lifestyle, you will not achieve your body's ideal healing and preventative powers if emotional barriers stand in your way.

EFT is very easy to learn, and will help you:

• Remove Negative Emotions
• Reduce Food Cravings
• Reduce or Eliminate Pain
• Implement Positive Goals

EFT is a form of psychological acupressure, based on the same energy meridians used in traditional acupuncture to treat physical and emotional ailments for over five thousand years, but without the invasiveness of needles. Instead, simple tapping with the fingertips is used to input kinetic energy onto specific meridians on the head and chest while you think about your specific problem - whether it is a traumatic event, an addiction, pain, etc. -- and voice positive affirmations.
This combination of tapping the energy meridians and voicing positive affirmation works to clear the "short-circuit" - the emotional block -- from your body's bioenergy system, thus restoring your mind and body's balance, which is essential for optimal health and the healing of physical disease.
Some people are initially wary of these principles that EFT is based on - the electromagnetic energy that flows through the body and regulates our health is only recently becoming recognized in the West. Others are initially taken aback by (and sometimes amused by) the EFT tapping and affirmation methodology, whose basics you will learn here.
But keep in mind that, more than any traditional or alternative method I have used or researched, EFT works. I have witnessed the results in my patients since deciding to use EFT exclusively in June of 2001. Indeed, because of its very high rate of success, the use of EFT has spread rapidly, and medical practitioners employing EFT can now be found in every corner of the country and world.
This manual will provide an overview on how and where to tap, and the proper affirmation techniques, so that you can begin using EFT immediately to help yourself and others. It will also provide an introduction to some advanced EFT techniques and principles you can employ. If you are interested in taking your EFT knowledge and practice to the next level, please consider Try It On Everything for the incredible benefits that they can provide you.

Tapping Locations & Technique

There are two basic areas to learn in order to use EFT: the tapping locations and technique, and the positive affirmations. These areas, as well as some advanced EFT principles and techniques, are covered in the following sections.
You should be able to successfully treat many problems by diligently applying the following instructions. To expand your abilities and understand, considerTry It On Everything.
If you are not getting the results you would like, or you have a particularly traumatic issue, please do not give up! Instead, consider consulting with an EFT professional. Dr. Patricia Carrington has some guidelines on selecting an EFT therapist, followed by a list of EFT practitioners throughout the U.S. and world. Many of these therapists even offer a free 15-minute phone session in which you can ask them questions to see if you connect.

Proper EFT Tapping

The basic EFT sequence is straightforward and generally takes my patients only a few minutes to learn. They have the slight advantage of me personally showing them the tapping points, but you should be able to pick up these points relatively quickly. With a little practice, you will be performing each round in under a minute.
NOTE: While it is important to tap the correct area, you need not worry about being absolutely precise, as tapping the general area is sufficient.

It's All in the Fingertips

The following information provides an overview of the EFT technique to give you a sense of how this amazing "tool" works. But bear in mind that by far the best instruction for this powerful technique is visual/audio instruction. When you are ready to tap into EFT's full potential, an outstanding (and economical!) investment is the book and DVD on learning EFT called, "Try It On Everything."

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The first thing to understand is that you will be tapping with your fingers. There are a number of acupuncture meridians on your fingertips, and when you tap with your fingertips you are also likely using not only the meridians you are tapping on, but also the ones on your fingers.
Traditional EFT has you tapping with the fingertips of your index finger and middle finger and with only one hand. Either hand works just as well. Most of the tapping points exist on either side of the body, so it doesn't matter which side you use, nor does it matter if you switch sides during the tapping. For example, you can tap under your right eye and, later in the tapping, under your left arm.
I modified this approach slightly by having you use both hands and all your fingers, so that they are gently relaxed and form a slightly curved natural line. The use of more fingers allows you to access more of the acupuncture points. When you use all your fingers you will cover a larger area than just tapping with one or two fingertips, and this will allow you to cover the tapping points more easily.
However, many obtain quite successful results with the traditional one-handed two-finger approach. You can use either method, but I tend to use my modified version in an effort to be more complete.
Ideally, you will want to use your fingertips, not your finger pads as they have more meridian points. However, if you are a woman with long fingernails you should of course use your finger pads (otherwise you may end up stabbing yourself).
You should also remove your watch and bracelets, as that will interfere with your use of the wrist meridian tapping.

Tap Solidly - But Don't Hurt Yourself!

You should tap solidly, but never so hard as to hurt or bruise yourself.
If you decide to use both hands, I recommend slightly alternating the tapping so that each hand is slightly out of phase with the other and you are not tapping with both hands simultaneously. This provides a kinesthetic variant of the alternating eye movement work that is done in EMDR and may have some slight additional benefit.
When you tap on the points outlined below, you will tap about 5-7 times. The actual number is not critical, but ideally should be about the length of time it takes for one full breath. There is probably a distinct benefit for tapping through one complete respiration cycle.
Please notice that these tapping points proceed down the body. That is, each tapping point is below the one before it. That should make it a snap to memorize. A few trips through it and it should be yours forever. However, unlike TFT, the sequence is not critical. You can tap the points in any order and sequence, just so long as all the points are covered. It just is easier to go from top to bottom to make sure you remember to do them all.

Remove your Glasses and Watch Prior to Tapping

Glasses and watches can mechanically and electromagnetically interfere with EF, so I advise everyone to remove them prior to tapping. For quick sessions conducted upon yourself, this is not critical, as you can easily tap around them, but I think there is always a benefit to removing them when possible.

Using EFT in Public: Eliminating any Embarrassment

Many people are concerned about embarrassing themselves by using EFT in public, especially when implementing my revision of it, which really makes one stand out in a crowd.
After a while of using and perfecting the technique - in private quarters, if you prefer - you will be able to use only two fingers of one hand, and to say the affirmation softly under your breath or silently. This way you can do EFT in just about any social setting, and if people even notice what you are doing at all, it will appear to them that you are merely thinking.

Finding the Right Tapping Points

The tapping points, and their abbreviations, are explained below, followed by a chart of the points. They are presented below in the exact order in which they should be tapped.

	1. Top of the Head (TH) With fingers back-to-back down the center of the skull.
	2. Eyebrow (EB) Just above and to one side of the nose, at the beginning of the eyebrow.
	3. Side of the Eye (SE) On the bone bordering the outside corner of the eye.
	4. Under the Eye (UE) On the bone under an eye about 1 inch below your pupil.
	5. Under the Nose (UN) On the small area between the bottom of your nose and the top of your upper lip.
	6. Chin (Ch) Midway between the point of your chin and the bottom of your lower lip. Even though it is not directly on the point of the chin, we call it the chin point because it is descriptive enough for people to understand easily.
	7. Collar Bone (CB) The junction where the sternum (breastbone), collarbone and the first rib meet. This is a very important point and in acupuncture is referred to as K (kidney) 27. To locate it, first place your forefinger on the U-shaped notch at the top of the breastbone (about where a man would knot his tie). From the bottom of the U, move your forefinger down toward the navel 1 inch and then go to the left (or right) 1 inch. This point is referred to as Collar Bone even though it is not on the collarbone (or clavicle) per se.
	8. Under the Arm (UA) On the side of the body, at a point even with the nipple (for men) or in the middle of the bra strap (for women). It is about 4 inches below the armpit.
	9. Wrists (WR) The last point is the inside of both wrists.

The abbreviations for these points are summarized below in the same order as given above. It is, again, the order in which they should be tapped:

TH = Top of Head EB = Eye Brow SE = Side of the Eye UE = Under the Eye UN = Under the Nose Ch = Chin CB = Collar Bone UA = Under the Arm WR = Wrists

Using EFT's Affirmation Statements

Tuning Into Your Problem

Now that you understand how to actually perform the mechanical tapping and where you need to tap, you will next need to know what to say while you are tapping.
The traditional EFT phrase uses the following setup:
"Even though I have this _____________,
I deeply and completely accept myself."
You can also substitute this as the second part of the phrase:

"I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

The blank above is filled in with a brief description of the addiction, food craving, negative emotion or other problem you want to address.
Examples Using the Traditional EFT Phrasing
While these examples represent a range of problems, keep in mind there really is no limit to the types of issues you can confront with EFT:
"Even though I have this fear of public speaking, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this headache, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this anger towards my father, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this war memory, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this stiffness in my neck, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have these nightmares, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this craving for alcohol, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this fear of snakes, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this depression, I deeply and completely accept myself."
Other EFT Phrase Options
You can also try these other phrase variations. All of these affirmations are correct because they follow the same general format. That is...they acknowledge the problem and create self-acceptance despite the existence of the problem. That is what's necessary for the affirmation to be effective.
You can use any of them, but I suggest you use the recommended one above because it is easy to memorize and has a good track record at getting the job done.
"I accept myself even though I have this_________."
Or:
"Even though I have this ____________, I deeply and profoundly accept myself."
OR:
"I love and accept myself even though I have this_______________."
Interesting Points About the Affirmation Statements

It doesn't matter whether you believe the affirmation or not...just say it.

It is better to say it with feeling and emphasis, but saying it routinely will usually do the job.

It is best to say it out loud,a but if you are in a social situation where you prefer to mutter it under your breath...or do it silently...then go ahead. It will still likely be effective.
To add to the effectiveness of the affirmation, The Setup also includes the simultaneous tapping on one of the acupuncture meridian points.
Tuning in is seemingly a very simple process. You merely think about the problem while applying the tapping. That's it...at least in theory.
"The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system."
Negative emotions come about because you are tuned in to certain thoughts or circumstances, which in turn, cause your energy system to disrupt.
Otherwise, you function normally. One's fear of heights is not present, for example, while one is reading the comic section of the Sunday newspaper and therefore not tuned in to the problem.
Tuning in to a problem can be done by simply thinking about it. In fact, tuning in means thinking about it.
Thinking about the problem will bring about the energy disruptions involved which then...and only then...can be balanced by applying The Basic Recipe.
Without tuning in to the problem, thereby creating those energy disruptions, EFT does nothing.

Putting It All Together First Round of Tapping

Now you will need to tap on each of the points described above while you are stating the positive affirmation. This will only take a few moments to do.
You should:

• Select an appropriate affirmation
• Carefully "tune in" to your problem by actually trying to hold the problem in your thought:
• State the affirmations in a loud voice with great passion, energy and enthusiasm

If you do this while tapping the points described earlier, it is highly likely you will notice a major decrease in the issue or problem that you were tapping on. If your problem or issue resolves completely, you are done with the tapping. If it doesn't decrease or decreases to a level that is less than acceptable, move on to the next section, or consider the more in-depth book and DVD, Try It On Everything, that comes with a host of real-world examples.

Tips & Tricks for Using Advanced Affirmation Statements The 7-Part EFT Manual:

Using the Reminder Phrase

Sometimes, one round of the tapping sequence while voicing your affirmation is enough to clear up the issue. However, when subsequent rounds are necessary, you can employ a "reminder phrase." This is simply a word or short phrase that describes the problem and which you repeat out loud each time you tap one of the points in the sequence. In this way you continually "remind" your system about the problem you are working on.
The best reminder phrase to use is usually identical to what you choose for the affirmation you initially used. However, you can use a short cut if the setup is particularly long by simply saying one or several words to speed up the process and do more rounds.
For example, if you are working on a fear of public speaking, the initial, or "setup," affirmation would go like this:

"Even though I have this fear of public speaking,
I deeply and completely accept myself."

Within this affirmation, the underlined words "fear of public speaking" are ideal candidates for use as the reminder phrase. Simply repeating this reminder phrase and the affirmation are usually sufficient to "tune in" to the problem at hand.

Lingering Issues: Adjustments for Subsequent Rounds of Tapping

Sometimes the first round of tapping doesn't completely eliminate a problem because a new issues or issues that prevent further progress show themselves via the tapping. These issues -- whether images, conversations, interactions or in some other form -- are in some way related to the first problem being addressed -- sometimes they are part of or the core of the cause, sometimes they are a result. The barrier restricting your emotional health, in other words, is made up of more than one brick -- and you must eliminate all the bricks.
If this is the case, you should do additional rounds of tapping as necessary to eliminate all the issues, but adjust your affirmation slightly as follows for best results:

"Even though I still have some of this __________,
I deeply and completely accept myself."

Note the words "still" and "some" and how they change the thrust of the affirmation toward the remainder of the problem.

EFT Cautions and Advice

Clinicians and clients should only do what feels right or good to them. You should not enter into emotional or physical waters that seem threatening. It is your responsibility to take care of yourselves in this setting. Remember professional help is easily available. Here are some cautions and advice with EFT:

1-Be Specific:

It is essential for clinicians to be extremely specific with language when using EFT.

2-Tuning In: 

The clients need to be totally tuned in to the issue of concern when using EFT. Sometimes, when the material is emotionally painful, clients will want to disconnect from their feelings. Look for any signs that the client is becoming distracted or disengaged and make sure that they repeat the Reminder Phrase as they tap the treatment points.

 

3-Cognitive Shifts:

As with energy movement, it is essential to pay attention to the cognitive shifts that can occur with even a single round of the tapping. A cognitive shift has occurred when you reframe the problem. Seeing the problem from a new angle, you will often express a sense of surprise and insight. These movements can offer valuable connections and associations and may open new pathways for healing. Following a cognitive shift, you often feel less guilt and self-blame, more hope, or a simple sense of relief in an area where there has never been relief before.
It is important to stop after tapping and see if you notice anything different or if something new came up after you tapped. This is frequently the underlying issue that is the real root of your problem.

4-Try it on everything:

EFT can be used to treat deep limiting beliefs, fears of the future, fear of success, fear of failure, and anxiety about expectations, poor body image and future relapse settings. One of the favorite sayings of Gary Craig, founder of EFT, is "Try it on everything."

5-Energy and Intention:

Many clients report that they do not have the same success when using EFT by themselves and on themselves. This likely has to do, in part, with the advantage of combining the energy and intention of two people sharing a single purpose during a session. When clients are less than satisfied with their own results, it is best to find a therapist to help them resolve the issue at a deeper level.

6-Through Me, Not By Me:

This is one of Gary Craig's other favorite sayings. EFT practitioners are NOT healing their clients. The healing is done through us if our clients are open to receive it.
Many people see themselves as special healers. This, in fact, interferes with the treatment process. The reality is that they are not healing anybody; the clients are actually healing themselves. Witnessing and facilitating this process is humbling as well as gratifying.

7-Keep Well Hydrated:

Water conducts electricity, and EFT accesses the electrical energy that flows through our bodies and minds. It is very important for both you and your clients to be properly hydrated. That would be about one quart of pure water per day for every fifty pounds of body weight.

Practice Your Affirmation Statements with Timing & Mirror Work

1-More On Your Affirmations:

Doing affirmations is one of the best ways to be kind to your mind, every thought you have, every sentence you speak is an affirmation of a sort. It is either positive or negative. However, you can also do specific intentional affirmations. And the beautiful thing about doing affirmations is that you can radically improve the effectiveness with EFT.
You can do this by first creating a definite positive statement that builds you up instead of beats you up. We're talking about definite positive statements to make or do, something in our lives or to create a specific goal.
You can start this process with positive self-statements. Even if it doesn't feel true to begin with, you will want to do these statements or affirmations many times a day.

2-Timing of Your Affirmations:

When you wake up, when you go to bed, every time you go to the bathroom you should say them.
It is especially important to tap and say the affirmations before you go to sleep. This is probably the single most important time to do it. I can't encourage you enough to do the EFT affirmations every night. It is one of the most important principles I can give you. When you tap before you go to bed you will give your subconscious from 6-8 hours to work on your affirmations and help create them for you.
If you find prayer a helpful resource like I do, you will want to integrate your prayer into the EFT sequences as I believe that will help dramatically increase the effectiveness of your affirmations.
It took me a nearly a year after learning EFT before I got in the habit of tapping before going to bed, but I want you to avoid my mistake and not wait awhile before you start doing this valuable technique. Start taping each and every night before you go to bed.

3-Mirror Work:

This is actually quite simple and inexpensive; all you need is a mirror and some time. You can certainly tap alone or in the dark, but I find it is far more effective to tap while staring at your own eyes in the mirror. This seems to provide a far deeper connection with your subconscious. It's almost as if the mirror is reflecting back your energy into you rather than going out into space somewhere.
If you haven't tried this yet you really need to consider doing this profoundly simple yet powerful technique.
You can begin by looking in the mirror and doing your EFT affirmations and you can tap that in on all the EFT points. Pay careful attention and listen to what you hear, especially focusing on any negative messages that can be blocking your progress.
May not get any messages initially because you are so used to beating yourself up and you are not used to a kind loving thought, but listen and follow through and learn to trust yourself.
We frequently have a tendency to beat ourselves up for every little thing no matter how small. All of us can use forgiveness on a daily basis and you can use the mirror to help you here also.
You can start by looking into your own eyes and say "Even though I wasn't successful or I was angry or impatient or mean or cruel or whatever problem you need to forgive yourself for then say
I forgive you, I was only doing the best I could"
I forgive you for holding onto those patterns for to long, I forgive you for not loving yourself."
And when you say "you" you are looking directly into your own eyes.
You have to try this as it is quite powerful. Remember to always acknowledge the negative thought if it is there, but don't give it a lot of importance.
Then you will want to use EFT on the negative thought that comes up and create a positive opposite.

The Real Reason Why You Can't Acheive Your Goal Or Lose Weight

A very common occurrence that will present itself is when you start to tap for a food craving you will have a memory of an image, person, place or event that the craving reminds you of. When you are doing the tapping sequences you will want to pay special attention to these usually negative thoughts or images that come up. Carefully listen for any statements that your subconscious is telling you are not right or true for you.
This is writing on your wall and causing an psychoenergetic block and unless you address that reversal is not going to allow you to progress forward. This is usually the major challenge for you and one of the primary reasons as to why you have been able to successfully implement your goal in the past. Unless you directly address this issue by some means, it invariably will self-sabotag e your efforts to achieve your weight loss goal.
Fortunately the solution is quite straightforward with EFT, you simply acknowledge whatever self-critical thoughts, images or feelings come up and then chose to simply love and accept yourself while taping on your acupuncture meridians.
Do this persistently and eventually your system will improve with time. Remember to say your statements with great enthusiasm and all the emotions you can muster. Your subconscious mind will not convert your affirmations into reality unless you can tie the statements in with emotional energy.
Let me provide a few examples to more fully illustrate my point. When I once gave an EFT demonstration in front of 400 clinical nutritionists and I had a volunteer come up who had a food craving. It turns out the physician who volunteered had a craving for Rice Krispy treats that were in the exhibit area. Her craving was a strong 10. As soon as we did one round of taping her eyes started to water and she was on the verge of tears. When I explored the issue further with her she said that she was reminded of the time when her mother would give her M & M treats to get her out of her hair.
So the real issue had nothing to do with her craving for the treats but it was the love and attention that her mother did not give her and the clearly inferior candy substitute that her mother offered her. We tapped on that issue and her cravings for the sweets disappeared instantly.
Another example would be a woman I saw who was 64 years old and was having trouble losing weight. When we started the EFT affirmation sequence she had a memory of how the last time she was her normal goal weight she was pregnant. Even though consciously she very well knew that short of a miracle, she was not going to become pregnant at 64, she was blocked from going forward with her weight loss. Her subconscious was convinced that if she achieved her goal weight she would instantly and immediately become pregnant.
Fortunately, we were able to use EFT to bridge the gap to the subconscious and connect it back to reality. Once we completed tapping that issue through she was able to successfully lose the 22 pounds of weight she had been unable to do for over 20 years.
This is a very powerful illustration that the subconscious is absolutely neutral.

Remember your subconscious is your faithful servant and it will provide you with exactly what you tell it. It could care less whatever demand you place on it. In many ways it is like your computer. It will perform whatever instructions you tell it. So you must be very careful of the instructions you provide.
The above story illustrates a negative example of the power of the subconscious, but you could just as easily implant positive affirmations and your subconscious will just as reliably provide you with that result in your life. I offer some practical suggestions on how to take advantage of this principle below.

Be Persistent With Your Affirmations

When you first say an affirmation it may not seem to be true. Please remember that affirmations are like planting seeds in the ground. It helps if you think of our mind like a garden in which your thoughts are seeds that you are planting. When you do these affirmations it is like putting a new seed into the ground.
Remember when you plant a seed in the ground, you only have a little tiny seed, you don't have a full-grown plant. That little seed needs to germinate. Then it breaks open its little shell and it starts to get nourishment from the earth. Then first the roots come out and then and only then does that first little shoot come out through the ground.
Just like it takes some time to go from seed to a full-grown plant, it takes some time from your first affirmation to the realization of your goal. It doesn't matter whether you see the results or you don't see them. You have to trust that it just takes time.

What Can You Do When Your Inevitable Fear Thoughts Come Up

When a fear thought comes up, simply say thanks for sharing, thank you for protecting me. Do not give it power. Don't run from it. Whatever comes up, it is very important to acknowledge it, when you hear them you can even write them down.
Once you have written the fear though down, you can turn it around to a positive affirmation and tap it in with EFT. You can say even though I have this fear (name the fear) I deeply love and accept myself and I fully appreciate that it is only trying to help me.
Then do an affirmation for what you really want, which is typically the positive present tense opposite of the fear, or whatever positive outcome you would desire instead of the fear.
Avoid denying the fear. You always want to acknowledge the fear.

That is the real beauty of EFT, it always acknowledges the truth and helps you get out of the denial trap that so many of us fall into.
EFT helps you understand that your fear thought is there to protect you. That is what fear really is for, to protect us.
It is important to recognize that no matter where you are in life, no matter what you contributed to creating, no matter what is happening, you are always doing the best you can with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you have until you can find a better way to handle the situation.

Be Patient With Your Affirmations

A critical truth that is helpful to remember when doing this work is that your persistent and consistent thoughts will eventually become your reality so be careful to only focus on positive thoughts.
So many people do EFT affirmations for a few days, they say it doesn't work and they stop. Remember, everything happens in a perfect time space sequence. You want to trust that and we want to know that.
Fortunately, EFT seems to rapidly accelerate not only the time at which your goal is realized, but the likelihood for your success. From my experience it is one of the most profoundly effective ways to maximize the success of your affirmations.

Be Present With Your Affirmations

Be sure to always remember to say your positive statements in the present tense. Your subconscious mind is very literal and if you ask it to do something in the future, you may fail to achieve your for many long years.
So many of us commonly default to this by force of habit. It takes quite a bit of conscious effort to avoid this non-intentional self-defeating trap. So always avoid saying I will have or I am going to have, which is in the future tense.
Always say your affirmation in the present tense, otherwise you run the serious risk delay your obtaining what you want and you may never get it.

Importance of Using Self-Affirmation Principle

When I first started doing the EFT work, I immediately modified the affirmation response and tried substituting phrases like I chose to remain calm and relaxed, and a variety of other ones that I thought might be better.
However, the more I studied this issue, the more I realized that self-love is at the core of the problem with most of our issues.

Everyone Knows What the Golden Rule is

-To do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.
-It is very hard to love your neighbor if you don't love yourself.

(Now when I talk about loving yourself I'm not talking about vanity or arrogance but talking about really respecting and cherishing the incredible miracle that you really are.

You cannot harm yourself, or you cannot harm another person if you love yourself. Unconditional acceptance is one of the major goals that we are here for and that begins with self-acceptance and self-love.

The Number one thing we can do to help us love ourselves, especially if we are going to lose weight is stop ALL criticism. We need to stop criticizing ourselves now and forever, never again if we are going to make forward progress. We need to vow to ourselves to never criticize ourselves ever again.

Most of us have been criticizing ourselves and beating ourselves up for years. We are not going to make much forward progress if we persist in this pattern.

When we criticize ourselves we contribute to negative changes and when we approve of ourselves we facilitate positive changes. Our thoughts create and contribute to all of our experiences in life, especially related to health issues.

You have complete control over our thoughts, not of your emotions. Choose the thoughts that are nurturous and supportive for you. Criticizing yourself never changes a thing. So please refuse to criticize yourself.

You need to accept ourselves exactly the way you are. If you don't love yourself when you are ten, twenty, fifty or over 100 pounds overweight, it will be highly unlikely that you will love yourself at your "ideal" weight.

Self-acceptance is the critical key here.

You can use the EFT affirmations to help you address the central core that seems to be at the key to most people's health problems, which is loving yourself and a peaceful transformation of your self-criticism.

Everyone has made negative choices in the past, we all have. The good news is that we all have a choice. You can always choose to let go of the old pattern. You can choose different and more supportive and nourishing thoughts. Letting go of your old negative pattern with love, allows you to move into the new pattern with ease.

Please always avoid punishing yourself and beating yourself up.

Forgiveness

This is one of the key to being succes

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sful with EFT and forgiving others is every bit as important as forgiving ourselves. Not forgiving them does not harm them in the slightest bit, but it plays havoc with us. Because the issues are not theirs, they are ours.
People who have problems loving themselves always seem to have problems learning to forgive others. Non-forgiveness shuts that door. But when you forgive and when you let go, not only does a huge weight drop off from you and the doorway to your own self-love opens up.
When you won't forgive, when you won't let go what you are really doing is binding yourself to the past and when you are stuck in the past you cannot live in present time. And if you cannot live in present time, how are you going to create a healthy and exciting future?
And that is the absolutely wonderful and powerful feature of EFT is that it allows you to effectively forgive someone. I have EFT for hundreds of people to help them forgive at the deep subconscious level.
Not just in your head, but in your heart, where it really counts.

Your Language

I certainly have noticed this with many people I have worked with. It all starts with our self-talk. Our self-talk or the way we talk to ourselves becomes important because it becomes the basis of our spoken word. It sets up the mental atmosphere that we operate in. This will attract to us experiences.

You see your subconscious is really an electromagnetic transmitter and receiver. It broadcasts emotions in space and whatever we broadcast we tend to receive from our environment.

BE VERY CAREFUL WITH YOUR LANGUAGE

 You see much of your power is in your words. The thoughts you think and the words you say are constantly creating your future. Your beliefs shape your life. The things you say are extension of your thoughts. This is why it is so important to never, ever berate yourself.

Always tell yourself you are doing the best you can.

If all you do is tell yourself you are fat and ugly and you hate yourself this way, then you stay stuck. You need loving support and then you can make changes. You need to constantly forgive yourself for not being perfect.
Too many of us think we have to be bad or wrong before we can be changed but we really don't have to do that. When you come from love and acceptance the changes can become much easier.

You make a change because you want to improve the quality of our life, not because you are a bad person that wants to become better.
And when you know more you will do things differently, so never, ever berate yourself for where you were.
Just tap in "I'm doing the best I can, I'm doing the best I can."
Remember, you need to constantly forgive yourself for not being perfect.

Do EFT About Ten Times Per Day

This will allow you to obtain maximum benefit from the technique.
It will also be enormously helpful if you can do this in front of a mirror paying careful attention to looking into your eyes. Your energy will be reflected off the mirror and add a profound synergism to the EFT tapping.
When in public you only need to use one hand and can lightly touch each point and hold it there for five seconds while "tuning into the problem" and repeating the affirmation. This way no one will realize what you are doing.

Alternative Approaches and Final Recommendations

Choices Alternative

Dr. Patricia Carrington has made a major innovation to EFT with her choices option.
Unlike the traditional affirmations mentioned above, Choices do not contradict a person's present view of reality and so are much more easily accepted. Additionally, the represent a proactive stance and a commitment to one's self.
When using the Choices option a self-acceptance affirmation is substituted for the traditional EFT affirmation used above. In general this affirmation is the opposite of whatever the negative statement contained in the first portion of the Set-Up phrase.
This Choice is an expression of what the person truly desires for the problem that the treatment is presently addressing. It is aimed at that specific problem rather than being a general affirmation.

Choices Technique

Identify the negative emotion or state (thought, attitude, feeling, pain, etc) that you want to be rid of.
Formulate a Choice that is roughly the opposite of this negative emotion or state.
Combine the negative emotion with the positive Choice.
State the entire Basic recipe combination (negative emotion and Choice) on the first three meridian points.
Then alternate the points by stating the negative reminder phrase on one point and then the positive Choice or reminder Choice on the next point.
Be careful to always end on a positive Choice.

Wording of Choices

Most people do not know how to identify what they really want. Ironically, however the, they are almost always very clear about what they don't want.
When asked to make a positive Choice, which is based on what they do want, most people will at best, just choose to improve a bit on what they don't like. One way they do this is to revert to comparisons.
They will use such words as better or more.
Examples include:

• I choose to be more confident.
• I chose to feel better.

This does not work well because a person's subconscious, computer-like mind is quite literal and it cannot interpret that statement with any precision. What is better? It could be only a tiny bit better. How much is more? When this is not spelled out precisely you have an unclear Choice that will not be very effective.

First Rule of Choices: Be Specific

A person making a Choice needs to state precisely what it is they want. A Choice should not contain vague comparison words such as "better," but should be a statement of exactly what they really want to create in their life.

Second Rule of Choices: Create a Pulling Choice

Choices must "pull" to be effective. This requirement is often neglected. A Choice that is lifeless is like a dull ad; you just skip over it, don't attend to it, and it has very little impact on your life.
You might think of a choice as a sort of ad made up by you and directed to yourself as a consumer. The person who must be sold is you. You have to buy into and truly want the manifestation you are trying to bring about.
Whenever possible seek to carefully add an adjective or adjectives to make the Choice as appealing as possible. The aim is to draw you like a magnet toward the goal they seek. Repeating the Choice during the EFT session should be a source of real pleasure and comfort so that you really want to keep saying the Choice over and over simply because it is so enjoyable to do so.
Examples:

• Let it be easy to ...
• Surprise myself by ...
• Find a creative way to ...
• Find it fun to ...

Alternatively you can add any of these adjectives to give it more appeal:

• Comfortable
• Satisfying
• Delightful
• Ingenious
• Safe
• Unexpected

Third Rule of Choices: Go for the Best Possible Outcome

The rule of thumb here is to be inwardly "truthful" in what is asked for. You need to choose what you really want in your innermost self, not what you think you should want - and it should be the very best you can imagine having.
Examples:
It is not enough to chose to have a "new apartment," because a "new apartment" might be a dingy 6th story walk-up with poor heating, tiny rooms, etc. Yet technically it might be "new" for you. A much more effective Choice would be to state exactly what you really want, such as "I choose to live in a quiet, sunny, delightful apartment.
The more positive and specific you are the better the Choice will be.

Fourth Rule of Choices: State Your Choice in the Positive

Those who have worked with affirmations know that the literalness of the computer-mind makes negative words or phrases a large problem. Our mind tends to ignore the negative and we get exactly what we were hoping to avoid.
We are always better off being as positive as we can when framing any sort of command to ourselves - and affirmations are basically commands.
When making a choice therefore you should avoid using such negative words and phrases as:

• No
• Not
• Never
• Don't
• Be Rid of

For Example:

• Poor Way: I want to be rid of my headache.
• Better Way: I choose to feel clear headed, healthy, focused and enthusiastic.

Fifth Rule of Choices: Do Not Choose for Others

This rule is important to emphasize because some people will choose other's behavior as though they had control over other people, which none of us have.
For Example:

• I choose to have Mary love me.
• I choose to have the people at work think I'm the best.
• I choose to have Ken understand me.

There are many ways that the above incorrectly worded Choices can be reworded so as to be non-manipulative an ethical in nature.
Preferred:
I choose to feel that Mary loves me. Here the person is making a Choice about their own reaction to Mary, something quite within their control.
The details are less important than the intent when applying this rule. The point here is not to act as though we were all-powerful in another person's life, but rather word the Choice so as to be as genuinely helpful to them as possible without imposing your values on them.

Psychological Reversals

The most common reason that psychological reversal does not change is that the affirmation was not said strongly enough or with enough emphasis. Most people will quietly state the affirmation I have frequently seen that it was necessary for the client to nearly shout the statements prior to the reversal shifting.

Criteria Related Reversals

These are subconscious mechanisms that may be in place and blocking the client's ability to successfully resolve their reversal.

Deservedness

This is the most commonly seen of the criteria-related reversals. Common sense dictates that if a person consciously or unconsciously holds the position that he or she does not deserve o get over a problem, attempts to alleviate the problem will be met with considerable resistance. This reversal is common among trauma survivor, patients, with eating disorders, and those who have violated closely help personal values and morals.

Safety

If the client experiences the problem as affording some level of safety, it will not easily be resolved. This consideration does not necessarily apply to situations that are truly unsafe or dangerous. This reversal is common among clients with anxiety-related conditions and even clients suffering from chronic pain.

Possibility/Doubt

Some clients experience deep doubt about their ability to resolve the presenting problem, for whatever reasons. While doubt by itself does not signal a reversal, if it is deep enough it will be consistent with a reversal.

Permission

In many instances this operates in conjunction with another, such as safety or deservedness. It is as if the energy system is saying, "I won't allow myself to get over this problem because it isn't safe to get over it" or "I won't allow myself to over this problem because I don't deserve to get over it."

Deprivation

Especially in the treatment of addictions, the issue of deprivation may serve to block progress. When this type of reversal is diagnosed, a discussion around this issue is appropriate.

What to Do When You Are Not Getting Results

Negative beliefs may interfere with EFT, or any energy treatment from working very effectively.
Some of the more common ones that might need to be treated include:

• I don't believe these treatments will work.
• I believe EFT works, but not for me.
• I doubt that EFT will work.
• Even if EFT does work, I am afraid it won't last.
• I don't trust myself to stay free of these problems from now on.
• I am afraid that these treatments won't work.
• I am afraid that the problem will come back.
• Here are common dynamics that show up as treatable problems. One needs to be alert to these.
• I'm afraid to give up my hopelessness, helplessness, fear, dependency, etc.
• I doubt it will happen.
• I'm supposed to be rejected.
• I don't trust myself to live it out.
• I'm supposed to be disapproved of.
• I don't feel safe with ... (whatever the situation is)
• I have to be perfect about everything.
• I fear something like this problem will happen again.
• I doubt that I will really be able to do this.

Relationship Problems

The following list is an extensive, but certainly not exhaustive, compilation of thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and emotions that are often problems, especially in relationships.
The bolded words are common when dealing with issues of loss such as the death of a loved one. These items can appear in a variety of situations. A person may have the feeling toward someone else as well as toward themselves, feeling rejected or disgusted and feeling disgusted and rejecting toward the rejecter at the same time.

• Abandoned
• Afraid
• Agony
• Alone
• Angry
• Anxious
• Apprehensive
• Ashamed
• At a loss
• Betrayed
• Blame
• Bored
• Burdened
• Cheated
• Concerned
• Confused
• Cornered
• Crazy
• Crushed
• Deep Sadness
• Deep Sorrow
• Defeated
• Dejected
• Depressed
• Despair
• Despondent
• Devastated
• Disappointed
• Discouraged
• Disgusted
• Dismay
• Disoriented
• Doubt
• Dread
• Embarrassed
• Emptiness
• Empty
• Enraged
• Exhausted
• Fatigued
• Fearful
• Hapless
• Heartache
• Heartbroken
• Heartsick
• Heaviness
• Helpless
• Horrified
• Horror
• Humiliated
• Hurt
• Inadequate
• Indignant
• Insecure
• Invalidated
• Lazy
• Lethargic
• Lonely
• Loss
• Lost
• Mad
• Melancholy
• Mortified
• Offended
• Outraged
• Overwhelmed
• Persecuted
• Pressured
• Punished
• Put down
• Put upon
• Rage
• Rebellious
• Rejected
• Rejecting
• Resentment
• Sadness
• Scared
• Scorn
• Self-conscious
• Shame
• Shattered
• Silly
• Sorrow
• Suffering
• Suspicious
• Terror
• Tired
• Tortured
• Trapped
• Traumatized
• Uncertain
• Untrusting
• Vulnerable
• Wary
• Wasted
• Worn out
• Worried

Tearless Trauma Technique

1. Identify a specific traumatic incident from their past. Ideally it should be at least 3 years ago to minimize any complications from the dynamics of a current event. An example might be, "the time my father punched me when I was 12." By contrast, the phrase "my father abused me" would be too broad because, chances are, the abuse took place over many, many incidents.
   Please stay on your original issue because it will be easy to shift to other issues as you resolve the original one.
   
2. GUESS at what your emotional intensity would be (on a 0-10 scale) IF you were to vividly imagine the incident. DO NOT to actually imagine it (although some will close their eyes and do this anyway). This GUESS is a surprisingly useful estimate...and...it serves to minimize emotional pain. Write your GUESSES down.
   
3. Develop a phrase to use for the EFT process such as "this father-punch emotion" and then proceed with a round of tapping.
   
4. After this round of tapping, GUESS again and go around the room asking them to state their new number.
   
5. Additional rounds of EFT usually a total of 3 or 4 rounds will bring just about everyone down to GUESSES of 0 to 3.
   
6. Once everyone is down to acceptably low GUESSES, then perform another round of tapping and, after this round, you will vividly imagine the incident.

When Should You Do EFT?

You can do it:

1. As soon as you wake up
2. Before every meal
3. Every time you go to the bathroom
4. When stopped at stoplights
5. When you go to bed

Your Consistent Thoughts Become Your Reality
All personal growth reduces down to the above sentence. Dreams don't necessarily come true but they DO take you in directions.
Your habitual vocabulary has a subtle and powerful ability to condition your mental system. Which is a better statement, "I can't" or "I don't know how yet"? Shifting your vocabulary will shift your entire outlook.
You get what you focus on. Pessimists see what is wrong in the world. Optimists see opportunity. Yet, it's the same world. What do you see? Whatever it is, it's a reflection of your consistent thoughts.

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